Medical concerns that might be holding you back from a great night of sleep

The importance of early bedtimes

Are you ready to "fall back"?

It's that time of year again!  Daylight Savings is coming up on November 4th.    Although it sounds wonderful to get that extra hour of sleep, and as adults we appreciate that extra hour, it can be tough for younger children.  View the slides to see how you can help your children adjust to the time change.

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#2 Sleep Secret- Make time for naps

• Why does my child wake so many times at night?
•  Why does my child wake at 5am and is ready to start their day?  
• Why is bedtime such a battle? 
• Why does my child only sleep for 10-20 minutes or sometimes 45 minutes?

If you are dealing with anyone of these situations chances are your child might be sleep deprived and lacking that important restorative day time sleep.  The secret is to make time for naps during the day to help your child rejuvenate!

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In his book, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, Marc Weissbluth, MD, shares "Sleep is the power source that keeps your mind alert and calm. Every night and at every nap, sleep recharges the brain's battery. Sleeping well increases brainpower just as weight lifting builds stronger muscles, because sleeping well increases your attention span and allows you to be physically relaxed and mentally alert at the same time. Then you are at your personal best."

Just like having an earlier bedtime helps children get in the quality sleep they need, a siesta during the day helps improve memory function, learning, development, alertness.  During the first year of life growth and development is so rapid.  Day to day you can see the changes.  Although after the first year, children are still developing and growing and achieving new milestones growth slows down just a bit.    That restorative naptime helps regulate our child continue that healthy growth! 

Day and night sleep serve different purposes.   

Without good day time naps you may find that your child has more meltdowns, becomes difficult to handle, will wake up earlier than 6am, and wake multiple times at night.  Why?  Well, little bodies and minds need time to process all that they are learning and taking in during the wakeful hours.  When they skip or fight naps they usually become overtired and over stimulated which causes a natural adrenaline rush caused by cortisol.  Most people have a hard time regulating themselves, but when you have a little one who doesn’t know how to regulate themselves, it can cause more crying and stress for the child and parents.  

Ending naptime battles

The key to your success will be to figure out the right timing for naps.  Of course the first few months babies have irregular sleep patterns which may start to take shape between 3-6 months.  However around 6 months of age is when sleep patterns mature.  Depending on your child’s age wakeful windows could be 2-3 hours.  Follow your child’s sleep cues to figure out that just right time for their sleep window.  You can figure this out by watching your child and the clock and keeping a log.  Following your child’s natural body clock can eliminate the guesswork. Once you get the patterns established, it’s key to keep naps in place during the first 2 years of your child’s life.  Make it the rule to keep naps sacred, not the exception. 

Create a naptime routine

Children are creatures of habit.  Put in place a mini- bedtime routine that signals “it’s time for nap.”  What does that look like?  Our naptime routine takes place after lunch.   We have our calm and classical music playing, while we do a diaper change and we read a book snuggled on the couch.  After our book we do big squeezes and hugs while we are going upstairs.   We turn the sound machine on and of course the room is nice and dark.  Then it’s just time for nap or for my boys that are now 4 and 6, rest time.  It’s a non negotiable part of our day! 

Nap coaching is hard- Stick with it!

It’s not a secret that this is a struggle for many families.  As parents we have to be SUPER consistent and persistent when it comes to nap coaching.   It’s our children’s responsibility to test the limits, but it’s our responsibility to set a firm and loving boundary.  If we give in, this is where many sleep challenges occur.  The key is to create a plan that you can follow through with no matter what age your child is.  

I came across this and there’s no other way to recreate it.  I see this with my children, the children I care for, my clients,  and look back at my experiences with children in the classroom.   I couldn’t agree more with the following observations that illustrate the difficulties faced and behavioral changes that children have when they have sleep problems: 

• Children do not "outgrow" sleep problems; problems must be solved.
• Children who sleep longer during the day have longer attention spans.
• Babies who sleep less in the daytime appear more fitful and socially demanding, and they are less able to entertain or amuse themselves.
• Toddlers who sleep more are more fun to be around, more sociable, and less demanding. Children who sleep less can behave somewhat like hyperactive children.
• Small but constant deficits in sleep over time tend to have escalating and perhaps long-term effects on brain function.
• Children with higher IQs -- in every age group studied -- slept longer.
• For ADHD children, improvements in sleep dramatically improved peer relations and classroom performance.
• Healthy sleep positively affects neurologic development and appears to be the right medicine for the prevention of many learning and behavioral problems.
• from Wiessbluth's Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child and On Becoming Baby Wise, by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam, MD

 Read more  Michael J. Breus, PhD courtesy of WebMD, Good,Sound Sleep for Children. 

Make sleep a family priority and healthy habit for life!  Even during the day for naps or commit to a family rest time.  It’s good for everyone!

Sleep tight!

Don't let fear hold you back

I need sleep NOW! Here's how...

It’s because of your precious little ones that I love doing what I do!  It is an absolute joy to transform a family from sleepless nights to sleep-filled nights of sweet dreams, where parenting becomes more joyful again.  

Because it's my passion to help ensure your little ones get the sleep they need to grow, develop and be the best they can be, I’ve created a dynamic Gentle Sleep Success On-line Workshop to help support tired families.  

Together, we’ll partner to create the best possible sleep plan for your family.  I’ll teach you step-by-step strategies for positive-parenting solutions.  You’ll be able to add these to your “parenting toolbox” and use these strategies during your entire parenting journey.  You’ll be able to parent from a place of love….and not from a place of fear or frustration.  So not only will we bring “sleep-filled nights” into your home, but you’ll be able to become the parent you truly desire to be.

This workshop is limited to 10 tired families!  It includes:

Part 1:         Getting Started and Preparing for your Consultation

Part 2:         Consultation Workshop: 1-hour live webinar

Part 3:         Creating Your Personalized Sleep Plan (with coaching video modules) 

Part 4:         Three 20-minute phone call follow-ups to review your sleep logs, answer questions about your personal sleep plan, and help support you while you’re implementing your sleep plan.

Part 5:         Consultation Wrap-Up and Question and Answer Session: 1-hour live webinar

Part 6:         Loving Lessons Sleeping and Parenting Community Facebook Private Group (for continued support and advice)

***If you are not able to attend the live webinars,

you’ll have access to the live recordings to watch at your convenience.  

You are not alone in this sleepless journey!  Join others struggling with similar issues.  Together, these 10 families will feel empowered to learn, implement and keep these good sleep habits in place! 

The investment for this workshop is only $147.  But when you act now and register before September 19th, you can get sleep back into your home for only $75! Use the discount code SL50PEE.

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Back to School, Back to Sleep

It’s that time of year again, back to school, back to business, and back to sleep!  During the summer months families tend to take a break from the much needed routines necessary, however back to school encourages us to remember to get back on track for good studies. 

If you don’t have a school aged child yet, then you are in luck, you can lay the ground work for these healthy habits now to eliminate some unnecessary battles later.   If you have a school aged child, it’s never too late to learn, grow, and make positive changes to create peaceful and memorable moments with your child to help them be the best they can be. 

How can you help your child be more successful this school year?

• Provide your child with the quality and quantity of sleep they need.   Quality sleep looks like getting the full 9-11 hours your school aged child needs.  Your child’s behavior, development and academic well being are riding on the quantity and quality of sleep they need.  You can simply create a happier and more pleasant child by encouraging good sleep habits.  Having too little sleep for children and adults can cause problems like memory loss, depression, anxiety, obesity, and a weakened immune system.  Sleep deprivation in children can mimic behavior symptoms like ADD/ADHD, sensory processing disorders, and autism.

• Figure out that just right bedtime.  When it comes to bedtime it’s important to work with your child’s circadian rhythm which is their internal clock.  First figure out what time your child naturally wakes up or has to wake up based on their school schedule.   Then use the sleep chart to figure out your child’s quantity of sleep that they need.  That will give you a more accurate window of what time bedtime should be in your home.   

• Create a calming and relaxing bedtime routine to help your child wrap up their day.  This is a great time to spend some quality time connecting with your child.   Some good sleep hygiene might include picking out the next day’s outfit, pack the back pack, washing face, bathing or taking a shower, brushing teeth, reading books, or praying.   Some parents wonder when is it time to relinquish bedtime duties to their child.  The process and hygiene aspects need training, the opportunity to learn how to do the necessary skill, then as the parent you release your involvement and allow for independence.  

• Smile and greet your child with a “good morning” to start a fresh new day.    To eliminate the morning battles before school, teach your child how to use an alarm clock if they need to be woken up.  Create a morning routine checklist of what you expect your child to do in order to get ready for their day.  Some items you might include on the chart are wake up, get dressed, wash face, brush teeth, comb hair, make bed, eat breakfast, help make lunch, and put lunch in back pack.

By creating simple routines, you will transition to creating these lifelong rituals your child will have to continue these healthy habits.  Include your child as part of the process to eliminate control issues.  Great nights start with great days! Make this school year the very best for your child!